For those who know the great Zig Ziglar (a man I admire an author, a motivational speaker and a great salesman, you may have come across his statement failure is not a person but an event either from his many books or during one of his motivational speeches.
I agree entirely with Zigs statement and this has informed my choice for the title of this piece.
Failure is indeed an event and not a person, but we need to ask what makes failure inevitable in what we do or the way we do it?
I know as you read this piece you have a mind or plan to be successful at whatever it is you do and so there are certain habits that we need to discard and others we still need to acquire if we are to get there.
Those who fail at what they do have at least one or a combination of some of the under listed habits:
v They lack focus: when a person has the habit of not focusing on what s/he is trying to achieve but keeps moving in any or all directions, s/he would soon realize that s/he is not just getting anywhere.
It is more or less like a tree that shakes its branches so hard when a strong breeze blows but still remains at the same spot motion without movement.
A lack of focus would make one at the slightest sign of challenges of any kind discard one idea and immediately move to another through listening to every kind of advice.
v They always blame others: those who fail always have a person or thing to blame for their misfortunes all except themselves. The economy is bad, the government is unfair, its my sisters fault, friends fault, mothers fault, fathers fault, etc, etc are some common statements we hear all the time.
Such statements do not allow for a proper analysis of the situation to enable one change or modify his or her plan to achieve his or her purpose.
It is even worse in my homeland Africa where family members, relatives, friends and neighbours are labeled as witches and wizards and are fingered as the cause of failures in the persons endeavour whether academic work, business, search for a spouse, job, etc.
v They lack self confidence: once you continue to bother about what others think of you or what you are trying to achieve, you will make but very little progress in any endeavour.
Fear of criticisms from relatives, friends, spouses, etc will certainly result in a fear of failure and inability to get anything started at all.
v They lack discipline and organization: if you lack a regular schedule in any task or tasks that must be done as and when due, you would soon find yourself on the path to failure.
A lack of discipline is also closely related to this in that one cannot differentiate say, between time for work and time for play or relaxation or between time to go to bed to rest for tomorrows work and time to watch television.
In essence, the person on the path to failure cannot strike a clear time balance for his or her daily activities.
v They always procrastinate: this is closely related to the issue of discipline and organization. Regularly putting off things to be done today until tomorrow will result in not getting it done at all and this eventually would lead to failure.
For example, leaving your school assignments undone until submission day or a work report to your employer until a day to deadline or deadline day itself.
v They wait for things to happen: those on the path to failure have a habit of finding every excuse possible for why they are yet to do what needs to be done to get them to their desired destination.
Rather than take initiative and tackle challenges headlong or simply put, make things happen, they wait for things to happen and give excuses to justify their lack of initiative.
They do not realize that the world owes them nothing but would only notice them when they begin to shine in their chosen endeavour.
v They lack understanding: of the true meaning of the word failure. They perceive failure as an end in itself and do nothing when it happens to them, rather than realize that failure is a means to another temporary end, success, which if not properly managed would lead to failure again, and which if properly managed would lead again to success and so on and so forth.
v They lack Godly values: I know some will contest this point seriously and say some have made it in life without having integrity, without being honest, having pride and arrogance and even without being prayerful.
While I might want to agree with this assertion, the question to ask is what later became of such people? Its one crisis after another- marital, legal, financial, health, etc, etc.
I make bold to state that no one can make a lasting success (for exactly what the word means) without having Godly values.
This is the most critical point that those who fail usually ignore to their own detriment.